what people think ....
Since ancient times, society has remained steady and secure in the midst of a tangled web of views, comments and whispers. While this has helped to maintain order, mainly from the moral realm, also served to keep out those who fail, or turn, do not want to fall into these word games, criticism and sarcasm. Anyone who wants to join in a community, must be open to occasionally be talked about in good or bad sense, depending on their behavior. But this is healthy for society?
Today, a lot of people live in large cities, where one of the most obvious advantages is the apparent invisibility as a person. For better or for worse, and unless you're in show business, you always have to remain invisible to most people, and that, we thought, would help us to remain free to say, but even so we can escape scrutiny society. With only greet the neighbor, the goalkeeper and food dispenser in the corner, you're busy. These characters will be ready at any second to release a gadget, a joke or a comment. Just get a couple of times with some friends, and become a party animal, go all weekend and will be an alcoholic, have a couple of friends and do not go down dog. Given this, do we react?
Well, one of the first things is denial. I do not care. Talk, they say, do what you want, I live my life the best way and as I please. Well, that works, until the girl next door that lets you look at the eyes, the concierge greets you with dryness, and the shopkeeper does not laugh at your jokes. So here comes the mask does not matter. Then comes the second stage: All right.
This stage is to try to overlook how people behave differently in your path. You pretend, laughing nervously and trying to pretend that nothing happens, the problem is not mine, it's the other, they do not know what they're missing. (I, of course) The hardest thing is having to deal with people everyday and they treat you with contempt. But this stage can last long, or too little. Of course, there will be another reveler, alcoholic or dog that wants to be your friend, but you what you looked with suspicion, and you've heard the things he has done, or say he has done. Moreover, this old saying "he who walks with wolves ..." not help at all.
next stage. Enter the game.
and comes masterstroke. No choice. You enter the game. Whereas previously you did not care what your neighbor did, or what you heard in the elevator, it is now vital, must be ready to collect as much information to be used on your right. With that information will achieve the goalkeeper forget your dry and become confident, and the grocer, forget (at times) your gossip and focus on the life of someone else. And once you've entered, you can not get out.
Now you're part of the community and should be glad, you learned how society works, you are part of its system of symbols and meanings, and above all, you became part of the moral practice of your environment .
Welcome to the world of gossip.
